Purpose, Perspective, and Perseverance Through the Pain: My Husband’s Neck Surgery Story

“You must be in so much pain,” the orthopedic surgeon said to my husband, Mark, after looking at his MRI.

Mark & Micheala at a wedding last year

Mark and Michaela at a wedding last year

For eight weeks, Mark had been suffering from a herniated disc in his neck. Because the disc was pressing on a nerve connected to his right arm, it led to extreme weakness in that tricep. It was so bad that our four-year-old daughter, Michaela, could beat him in arm wrestling

Numb fingers and trembling hands occasionally prevented Mark from writing. And the disc caused him constant, sometimes excruciating, pain

Despite everything, Mark continued to preach, serve, and love his family well. But he often had to lie down on a bed, a sofa, or even the floor, so he felt bad for “letting people down.”

“I’m sorry, Sweetie,” he had to tell Michaela, “but I can’t play Bucking Brunke Bronco. I can’t even play Chutes and Ladders with you right now, because Daddy needs to lay down.” 

Two rounds of steroids led to partial relief from the pain and a return of feeling in his fingers. But the relief was temporary, and the strength in his right tricep never returned.

To prevent the weakness from becoming permanent, Mark needed to get surgery. They scheduled it for Friday, June 24. The week before, he sent an email to our church family requesting prayer.

“Our God is still good!” Mark wrote. “He promises us in places like James 1:2-4 and Romans 8:28-29 that He uses trials like these for our good and His glory to grow us, mature us, and prune us to be more like Jesus . . . Trials are good if we seize the opportunity to draw closer to Him!(Tweet that!)

Photo courtesy: flickr.com

Photo courtesy: flickr.com

When Mark saw his primary care doctor, so she could clear him for surgery, his blood pressure was 190/110. The orthopedic surgeon had told him it was probably high because of the pain.  

His primary care doctor said, “You’d have to be in an incredible amount of pain for your blood pressure to be that high.”

Mark right before his surgery. Always a character!

Mark right before his surgery. Always a character!

The day of the surgery, the nurse gave Mark some pills to take, including one named Celebrex.

“Great!” Mark said. “Matches my party hat.”

Dr. Quigley performed an Anterior Cervical Discectomy and Fusion (ACDF). In other words, he removed the herniated disc and inserted a cadaver bone and then a metal plate to hold it in place.

Afterward, Dr. Quigley said, “Mark did great! The disc was big, but he had no complications, and he lost less than a tablespoon of blood.” 

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What Mark’s neck looks like today

Mark was told the strength in his arm should return within three or four months. Less than two weeks later, it’s already coming back. 

At his follow-up appointment this past Friday, his X-rays looked great.

Yesterday, he returned to work and started driving again. And the pain he struggled with for three months has disappeared. 

“I was in so much pain for so long,” he said, “and now it’s gone.”

 

9 thoughts on “Purpose, Perspective, and Perseverance Through the Pain: My Husband’s Neck Surgery Story

  1. That is truly a wonderful blessing ! I’ve dealt with pain in many places in this body and understand all that you described. So glad the pain is gone and he can move on with life and allow the learning from this process to love others through their pain in the future. God turns everything toward good.

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