About Christy Brunke

Welcome, friends! I’m blessed to be a mom, a pastor’s wife, and the bestselling author of the fictional book, Snow out of Season. But my greatest claim to fame comes from being a child of the King. Because of that, I’m passionate about my family, unborn children, and God-written love stories. Though I used to live in China, now I love serving in ministry here in Maryland. Praying you’ll be blessed as you read my blogs, my story, and my award-winning novel!

“You’ll Be in My Heart,” Our Father-Daughter Dance

You'll Be in My Heart song from Tarzan

“You’ll Be in My Heart” song from Tarzan

In June 1999, I moved to China, and Tarzan hit the theaters.

Shortly after my parents said goodbye to their only daughter, they went to see Disney’s animated movie about a boy raised by gorillas.

When Tarzan’s adopted mom told him she’d always be there for him even when destiny called him away, my dad thought of me, teaching English halfway around the world. He bought the CD single of the song she sang, “You’ll Be in My Heart” by Phil Collins. When I returned home for a visit, he gave it to me.

When I flew back overseas, I realized I’d forgotten the precious gift. How long would it be before I could return home for it?

Weeks later, my grandmother called to say she’d sent six big boxes, complete with stuffing, canned ham, and cranberry sauce. Since I wouldn’t be home for the holidays, she decided to send Thanksgiving to me.

Because I worked at a remote agricultural university, packages weren’t delivered directly to our campus. We’d receive a notice that we had a box waiting, and we’d take three buses into the city to claim it.

An Unexpected Package

When I received the notice I’d been expecting, I hired a van to take me to the post office. An hour and a half later, I hurried in and handed the front-desk worker my slip of paper.

He stepped into the back and returned with a single box about two feet wide and two feet high.

I stared at it. Lifted it. It was light. Certainly not heavy enough for canned ham and cranberry sauce.

“Zai zheli qianming,” the postal worker said.

I hastily scrawled my signature and headed back to the van with a bashful look at the driver.

He raised his eyebrows at the single box—“Americans,” he was probably thinking—then shrugged his shoulders and headed back to school, careening through bikes, taxis, and motorcycles.

Big stuffed rabbit Tarzan the TuziI opened the package and pulled out a big bunny with cornflower blue ears. At the bottom of the box lay the CD I’d left behind. Holding the soft rabbit close, memories danced through my mind:

Playing a fake guitar as Dad sang and played his real one.

Writing Dad a letter when I was a little girl, asking if I could be in his band.

Dad pretending to talk to Santa after we’d gone to bed every Christmas Eve.

Later, Mom told me how she’d come home one day to find that bunny sitting on the kitchen counter.  “Who’s that for?” she’d asked.

“Christy,” Dad said, as if it were perfectly reasonable to buy a giant stuffed animal for your 22-year-old daughter and ship it to Asia.

I’m a little embarrassed to admit that that rabbit, whom I named “Tarzan,” became my sleeping companion for years, his white fur gaining a grayish cast.

Our Father-Daughter Dance

Eight years after my dad mailed that CD, I was living in Chicago and got engaged, and Dad flew out to record the song for my wedding.

On a warm day in June, Dad escorted me down a long aisle into the arms of another man who promised to always love and protect me. At the reception, Dad told the story behind “You’ll Be in My Heart,” and then we slow-danced around a rustic ballroom as the DJ played our song.

Father-daughter dance: You'll Be in My Heart

Dad, today you turn 59, and though I may not be with you, you’ll always be in my heart.

Writer to Writer Conference: Top 10 Quotes

What do Hershey’s kisses, Jerry B. Jenkins, and 90 Minutes in Heaven have in common? The Writer to Writer conference at the Hershey Lodge featuring Jerry Jenkins (author of the Left Behind series) and Cecil Murphey (co-author of 90 Minutes in Heaven and Gifted Hands: The Ben Carson Story) as well as several other wordsmiths, editors, and author coaches.

Writer to Writer Conference at Hershey Lodge Pennsylvania

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We were given candy bars when we checked in to the Writer to Writer conference, hot cocoa during breaks, and Hershey’s kisses in each conference room. We even got to wash our hair with chocolate-scented shampoo! But even tastier than these treats was the teaching we received.

From funny to enlightening, here are my favorite quotes from the Writer to Writer conference.  Tweet that!

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“When did you know you loved to write?” someone asked Jerry Jenkins.

“There are a lot of things I love about being a writer,” he said. “I love having written, I love being able to write well, and I love being a writer. But writing’s a little too hard and grueling to love while doing it.”

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In her blogging workshop, Lori Stanley Roeleveld said, “There is no hiding on the reader’s screen. Amid the carefully crafted words, your soul will appear in all its beautiful and messy imperfection. This isn’t an art for the skittish, the thin-skinned, or the fraud.”

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Billy Graham autobiography Just As I AmWhile meeting with Billy Graham to write his autobiography, Just As I Am, Jerry Jenkins asked the evangelist how he maintains his spiritual life.

Billy Graham said he does two things:

1)      Prays without ceasing.

2)      Searches the scriptures.

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It takes years to become a good writer,” Cecil Murphey told us in his keynote speech.

A chiropractor once said to him, “I think I’m going to take off six months and write a book.”

“That’s funny,” Cecil replied. “I was thinking I would take off six months and be a chiropractor.”

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Realm Makers logo at Writer to Writer ConferenceRebecca Minor, the director of Realm Makers, a symposium for Christian fantasy and sci-fi writers, said, “I’m too weird for normal people and too normal for weird people.”

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Author coach Suzy Q was teaching us how to be relevant, relational, and relatable to our audience, and then she reminded us, “You write books for people to read.”

Her husband laughed and repeated what she said. “You can now go home,” he told us. “Who needs Cecil and Jerry?” 

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What’s the most common mistake fiction writers make?

“Not plunging your character into terrible trouble as soon as possible,” Jerry Jenkins said in his “Fiction Your Readers Will Remember Forever” seminar.

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Lori Stanley Roeleveld said, “We must be brave, we who blog. We must be fearless. We must love the Lord with abandon and recklessly allow that love to travel the path of our fingertips onto the keyboard to be translated into truth that can ignite a fire before the reader’s hand can click again.”

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While writing Just As I Am, Jerry Jenkins told Billy Graham how much people admire him.

Billy Graham put his hand on the floor and said, “I feel this low when I think about all the ways I failed the Lord.”

90 Minutes in Heaven by Cecil Murphey 1

In the midst of so many different writing projects we could pursue, Cecil Murphey gave us one final charge.

“Lord,” he told us to pray. “Where do I begin?”

Funny Things Kids Say: Michaela Brunke 2014

Funny Things Kids Say: three-year-old Michaela Brunke 2014

One of my favorite things about having little kids is all the funny things they say. My oldest daughter, Michaela, turned three in August. Here are some of the funniest things she said in 2014:

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During worship team practice, as we were singing, “O Holy Night,” Michaela pulled me down and said, “Why are you guys falling on your knees?”

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One night in late October, Michaela was sitting on Grandma Necie’s porch watching the moon and stars. “Let’s get a little closer,” Michaela said, as she walked up the driveway.

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One summer day, despite my protests, Michaela insisted on bringing a heavy bag of toy cars to the park.

I finally told her she could take them as long as she carried them there and back by herself.

She hefted them all the way there, but as we were leaving, she said, “How about, this time, I carry my bag and you carry me?”

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“Boy, you liked your Chinese food,” Mark said to Michaela after lunch one day. “You tore it up!”

Michaela laughed.

“Was that a fake laugh?” Mark tickled her. “Or a real laugh?”

“Fake laugh.”

“Why’d you give me your fake laugh?”

“That wasn’t funny.”

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Grandma Angie was about to take Michaela to a hobby shop with a Thomas the Train play area, and Michaela said Grandma was going to buy her more trains.

“You can go to the store and play,” I said. “But Grandma doesn’t need to buy you any more trains. How many trains do you already have?”

“Mommy,” Michaela said, lifting her hand. “Just let this happen.”

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 I used “which” in a sentence one day.

“Don’t say witch,” Michaela said. “Witch is bad.”

I explained that there are two words that sound the same, but I meant the one that means, “Which one?” as in “Which one do you want?”

“Do you understand?” I asked her.

“Uh-huh,” she said. “Some witches are good.”

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 My husband, Mark, and I had dentist appointments and were taking the girls along.

“I’m going to come in with you at the dentist,” Michaela said. “So you don’t get scared.”

Mark rubbed her shoulder. “Well, sweetie, we’ll have to ask Dr. Sam if you can come back with us.”

“If Dr. Sam says, ‘no,’ don’t be scared, okay?”

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At our church retreat in May, Michaela was riding her bike and Mark told her to crash into someone they were about to pass.

“What?” Michaela said. “I can’t do that. We shouldn’t crash into people—it’s not nice.”

“I know, honey,” Mark said. “I was joking.”

“Are you sorry?”

Mark chuckled. “Yeah, sweetie, I’m sorry.”

“Never say that again.”

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On New Year’s Day last year, Mark asked Michaela what she wanted from Lucky Dog.

“I want sandwich—no cheese in it. With bread—no milk in it. Forty pounds. No cashews.”

Can you guess what she’s allergic to?

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“Are you constipated?” I asked Michaela, as she sat on the potty one day.

“No.”

“Do you even know what constipated is?”

“No.” She held up her hand. “Now you’re going to tell me what constipated means.”

I explained, and then she said, “Now tell me another joke.”

Bonus

Sometimes mommies say silly things too. . . .

“Mommy,” Michaela said, after Mark got home from work one day. “Tell Daddy about the show I watched.”

Peep and the Big Wide World kid show“Oh, yeah,” I said. “Mickey watched a peep show today.”

Mark stared at me. “She what?”

Michaela threw up her hands. “It’s the one with the chicks!”

Want more funny things kids say? Check out Michaela’s Top 10 Quotes from 2015 and 2016 and Angelina’s Top 10 Quotes from 2016.

What funny things have your kids said? Comment below!

New-Mom Must-Haves: 9 Unexpected Needs

New-Mom Must-Haves: Nine Unexpected Needs for expectant mothers

New-mom must-haves. Photo courtesy of http://carlosparnellmd.com

Congratulations! Your one-of-a-kind miracle is on his way—or already here.

No person on Earth has ever been, or will ever be, quite like your son or daughter.

And you will come to love this child more than you can imagine.

But being a mom can be challenging, especially without the right tools to help you along the way. All moms know they need a crib, baby clothes, and oodles of wipes and diapers, but these new-mom must-haves will help you—and your little one—not only survive, but thrive in that wonderful, but tumultuous, first year (and beyond!). Tweet that! Just click on the pictures or text links to order!

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Safe and Sound Sleep New-Mom Must-Haves

Nothing impacts the quality of your child’s first year as much as their sleep. Well-rested babies are happier and easier to care for; overtired babies are cranky and hard-to-please. But we don’t just want our kids to sleep soundly—more than anything, we want them to sleep safely.

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is the main cause of death for children between one month old and twelve months old. To lower your little one’s risk, put him to sleep on his back, don’t overdress him or smoke around her, and keep the nursery temperature between 68 and 72.

1. Baby Sleep Books

New-Mom Must-Haves The Sleep Sense Program Dana OblemanEven before your little blessing comes barreling into your bedroom, read books about sleep.

The Sleep Sense Program by Dana Obleman ranks at the top of my list because it not only includes an E-book, but also videos tailored to your child’s age and a weekly conference call where you can ask Dana questions.

I also recommend Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth, M. D. and Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How to Calm, Connect, and Communicate with Your Baby by Tracy Hogg.

2. Snuza Baby Movement Monitor

Wouldn’t it be great if something could alert parents if their baby stopped breathing? Enter Snuza—the answer to a new mom’s worst fear! Unlike the Angelcare system, which uses a sensor pad under the mattress, this movement monitor clips right onto your little one’s diaper so you’ll have few—if any—false alarms, but plenty of peace of mind.

3. Aden + Anais Security Blanket

New-Mom Must-Haves aden + anais classic security blanketBlankets, bumpers, and stuffed animals in the crib increase the risk of SIDS for children under one. But babies sleep better when they can cuddle with a special toy or blankie. So what’s a mom to do?

Try the Muslin Issie Security Blanket—its breathable fabric makes it safe, even for newborns. Nurse with the lovey and sleep with it under your shirt for a few nights and then give it to your child—complete with a little mommy-scented magic.

4. Wearable Blankets

Swaddling newborns before naps and bedtime works great for the first eight weeks, but by the time your baby is two months old, you should trade their receiving blankets in for sleep sacks. Buy a few in each size, unless you do laundry every day.

5. Happy Nights Diapers

New-Mom Must-Haves Pampers Baby-Dry diapers Size 1 120To keep your child dry overnight—which helps them sleep better—use Happy Nights diapers.

Three is the smallest size they come in though, so for the first several months, try Pampers Baby Dry diapers. (Pampers Swaddlers are my favorite daytime diapers.)

Sane and Sound Mommy New-Mom Must-Haves

When your kids sleep well, that helps keep you healthy and happy. And when you’re healthy and happy, you can be a better mom. These last four tips will help too.

6. Permission to Take a Nap

Delivering a child is exhausting. Getting up multiple times in the middle-of-the-night—every night—can make you moody. Take a nap. Or, if you have other young kids, go to bed early or sleep in a little before your husband leaves for work. Your mind, body, and emotions—and family—will thank you.

7. Sense of Humor

When your baby has yet another poop explosion just as you’re about to walk out the door or your toddler pukes on you right before your birthday dinner, it helps to laugh about it or make up silly songs (my husband and I have several we sing to our girls).

Mom's One Line a Day8. Mom’s One Line a Day: a Five-Year Memory Book

Before you go to bed each night, jot down a quote, a milestone, or a special event in this journal and read what you wrote previous years on that same day.

For me, it works much better than a typical baby book which I rarely find the time to write in. Plus, remembering the joys of motherhood can help you weather the challenges.

Want to read some of the funny things I recorded in mine? Just click here!

9. Prayer

New moms, especially nursing ones, are on-call 24/7, and as much as we’d like to be superhuman, we’re not. But Jesus is. And He wants to be closer than a brother, closer than our best friend, closer even than our children. His strength, and not our own, will get us through every long night and every demanding day and give us the peace and perspective to cherish every moment.

Experienced moms, share your new-mom must-haves in the comments!

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Six Truths to Tell Our Kids Instead

Six Truths to Tell Our Kids Lies chalkboard

Truths to Tell Our Kids Instead

What fibs do you tell your kids? Tweet that!

The other day, I read a blog titled, “Six Little Lies We Tell Our Kids.” While I enjoyed the good-humored post and think I’d like the fun-sounding author, I couldn’t help thinking of six truths to tell our kids instead.

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Instead of telling our children, “Santa Claus is watching you” to get them to behave, we can teach them a truth they won’t outgrow: “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account” (Hebrews 4:13). Knowing that God sees everything can help them grow into people of character who do what’s right when no one (but Him) is watching.

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Instead of telling our children, “I was a good kid,” we can be honest about our faults and failures to show the beauty of God’s forgiveness and the power—and necessity—of walking by His grace. Plus, if we share our struggles, both when we were young and now, our sons and daughters will be more likely to open up to us about theirs.

Naughty Kid

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Instead of telling our children, “I’m leaving without you,” we can offer real consequences when they dawdle, refuse to get dressed, or throw a temper tantrum. Following through with consistent consequences will teach them to obey instead of disregarding our words as empty threats.

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Instead of telling our children, “Of course mermaids are real,” we can introduce them to the fascinating world of the imagination and teach them to create stories that impact and entertain.

Mermaid

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Instead of telling our children an annoying toy is “broken,” we can offer to buy them a new one to replace the irritating one. Or, we could limit when, where, and how long our child can play with the noisy, messy, or battery-guzzling one. Though this lesson may not be easy—on your or the child—it can ultimately teach them consideration for others.

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Instead of telling our kids, “We’ll get it next time” when they ask for something in the store, we can teach them to be content and grateful for what they have. As they get older, we can teach them to budget, an important skill in a country where the average household owes over $7,000 just in credit card debt.

I’d love to hear what you think in the comments! What “little lies” do you tell your kids? Are there truths that might serve you better? What do you think are the most important truths to tell our kids?